Frequently Asked Questions
The most important aspect of life is how we create connection. This is a process that occurs much like a circuit, with the battery of the circuit being our emotions and the processor being our mind.
The connection circuit is about human connection. It identifies the components necessary for connection, accurate thought, appropriate expression and authentic experiences, as well as the resistors which disrupt, displace and distort our circuit of connection.
Elemid is refining, defining and aligning in order to create connection to ourselves and the world around us.
By refining the components of connection into emotional elements, we can
define our expression with the intention to align these elements with our values. When we do this we are able to restore rather than deplete our circuit of connection.
By identifying ones emotional expression, we become more aware of the connection we are creating and intentional about the emotion we are expressing. This allows us to connect more accurately, appropriately, and authentically to what we value.
Emotions are evolutionary and biologic, often experienced without thought. There are 8 emotions. You know it is an emotion when they move you. Emotions are reactions that seem to "hit us" or come out of nowhere, moving us to a physical expression, often tears. Emotions are moments, like a moment of surprise, anger, or sadness. Our emotions tend to be expressed and subside, in a cycle. When we have a sustained emotional state, we can experience distress. Emotions move us outward, which is why we have to express emotion and when we do not, disconnection becomes the diagnosis.
Each of the 8 emotions have a specific expression and can be categorized into types of emotion. There are connecting and disconnection emotions. There are also motivating and demotivating emotions. The 4 elements of emotions are used to organize emotions into a cycle, based on principles of science, like charge and balance.
Feelings connect our thoughts and emotions. Feelings are from our awareness, even when we can not identify them. Feelings are an interpretation of information from our thoughts or body. Feelings allow us to know where we are within ourselves. Feelings are like symptoms and they take us inward. Feelings can linger and become where we get "stuck", an inefficiency in connection.
I would refer to this more as unconscious thoughts that lead to feelings that we become aware of. We also can have unconscious emotions that we mistake for feelings. Remember, feelings connect our thoughts and emotions.
Most of us have heard of a hierarchy of needs. I focus on a hierarchy of having:
The 8 emotions can be further categorized into states of having.
We define every element of our lives, what we believe politically, spiritually, romantically, and geographically. What we do, what we prefer to eat, and where we choose to go are all defined. Yet, we hesitate to define the essential elements of who we are. How we define ourselves and how we connect - also known as thoughts, feelings, and emotions.
How are we to arrive at the experience of our creation without a clearly delineated path?
We often get lost in our feelings while not being able to define our emotions.
Many researchers, philosophers, and therapists have been defining emotions for millennia. The understanding that thoughts and emotions are distinctly different is typically not questioned. However, the exact definition of emotions varies from being purely biological to being a cognitive construct.
For some, the differentiation between feelings and emotions is, at its worst arbitrary and, at its best, semantics. But a clear definition of the parameters by which we define the terms we are using becomes fundamental in our ability to accurately and clearly communicate who we are.
Many have asked the question - Is my life happening to me or am I creating it? The answer is you choose.
As most of us live now, we feel our emotions and express our thoughts, which leaves us reactive, defending our thoughts while not expressing our emotions.
By learning to feel our thoughts and experience the emotions that we express, we can respond more than we react. Our life becomes an opportunity with a choice rather than obligation with consequences.
When our life is experienced as an emotional reaction, we feel out of control. When we direct our life from a place of awareness, intention, and knowing, we are able to respond.
What does this mean and why does it matter?
As we begin to move beyond simple recognition, meaning, and description, we move from understanding to knowing. From communicating to connecting. From reacting to responding. From simply existing to evolving.
We can only have in the moment of now, and life is the occasion for change.